Apart At The Seams Book Tour
I remember my first chick lit novel: it was the sequel to Bridget Jones’ Diary. What I remember most isn’t (apparently) the title, but the awkward conversation I had with a friend of mine when I nearly flung it out the third-story window of a terrace house after chapter two, calling Bridget a “dappy bint”.
Turns out my friend identified heavily with Bridget. I steered clear of chick lit for a long time after that.
Then Mel (the one who comments here!) wrote a whole series of chick-lit books, the latest of which is Apart At The Seams (available by no small coincidence as the Daily Deal on Amazon today – if you’re reading this and it’s still the 5th). And it was much better! And it had bloggers in it. I’ve not only read (most of) them, but joined up a book club tour to give you a closer look.
Close as in spoilers guys. Be warned.
Apart At The Seams is the sequel to Life from Scratch and Measure of Love – but you don’t have to have read either to read this one.
It “tells the same tale as Measure of Love from Arianna Quinn’s point-of-view. From her budding friendship with Noah Reiser, writer for the popular comedy news show, the Nightly, to her relationship with Ethan Katz, her best friend’s brother, Arianna navigates the world of single motherhood while trying to listen to her heart, and discovers that the truth is as slippery as the satin she embroiders at work, especially in the lies we tell ourselves.”
I’m going to play it straight and answer my three questions from the others:
As a reader I felt distanced and came away with the impression that I only knew what Arianna wanted me to know. I wasn’t convinced that she knew herself, or possibly even trusted herself all that much. I questioned her motivation and felt she “settled,” which made me sad. I feel no one should settle. Do you feel she was settling?
I don’t think she knew what she was doing a lot of the time. But if she ever did, it was towards the end when she finally had something force her to stop and think. One person might reflect you well, but that doesn’t mean they complete you. One project might look shiny and pretty, but that doesn’t mean you should buy it as-is and hang it up in your hallway.
I can understand Arianna’s decision, but a lot remains to be seen in practice. If there’s a fourth book coming, hopefully it will see Arianna breathing more slowly and gaining a bit more clarity on, you know, everything.
Arianna has a difficult time asking for help, assuming that she has to be available for everyone else’s needs in all aspects of her life. Once she realizes that she needs to focus on herself, does she go too far in the other direction of neglecting important relationships?
Yes. But that’s ok.
The whole book happens over a pretty short time period, and she goes through a completely foreseeable period of relationship “neglect” every year at the same time, due to her work. So yes, she disappeared momentarily. She kind of fell off the face of the earth for a number of weeks and it wasn’t necessarily at the best time for those around her, even though they had some forewarning. Then she took a deep breath and sought balance. I didn’t hold it too hard against her.
Knowing that Arianna never wants to get married, why do you think Ethan kept pushing the idea rather than compromising?
I felt he did try to compromise, many times in many ways. The fact that his suggestions didn’t work shows he didn’t really understand what problem he was trying to solve – and I didn’t really blame him for that, since Arianna didn’t know, either.
I’m not even sure either of them really figured this one out in the end. It seemed more as if they just made a promise to try and figure it out together. I guess that seemed like enough to me.
To continue to the next leg of this book tour, please visit the main list as put together by the indefatigable Lori at LavenderLuz.com
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Sounds like a good book. These 2 sentences got me thinking hard:One person might reflect you well, but that doesn’t mean they complete you. One project might look shiny and pretty, but that doesn’t mean you should buy it as-is and hang it up in your hallway.
I assume it’s not in the library yet. But I will get around reading it when I have the chance. Sounds like something I would like to reflect on.
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Ha, dappy bint is new to me! I do agree with your assessment of Bridget Jones!! 😀
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On closer inspection, I think the term may be dating me rather specifically 🙂 .
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Sorry it took me so long to comment.
I love the dappy bint phrase, and will borrow it for future use. 🙂 I absolutely loathed Bridget, and upset a friend with my outspoken criticism of her. I read all the books, and still could not find an ounce of sympathy for the dappy bint.
Which is not the same for Arianna. She is clueless, in many ways, poor thing. She believes she is misunderstood, when she is only mistaken, she is lying to herself and Ethan, by ommission, but it is still lying, etc. I am happy to see that she grow up emotionally in the end. Cancer has often a very sobering effect on the family. But if that did not happen, would she and Ethan have still made it? I don’t think so. Mainly because, as I said somewhere else, in the end Ari finds out that Ethan does love her, and waits for her. And it is easier to teach one to load a dishwasher, but impossible to teach one to love.
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Let me know how “dappy bint” goes for you 🙂
Yeah, it’s an interesting question, whether they would have had such a strong relationship by the end of the book if not for the cancer. I have to agree that chances are no. Then again, life is life – sooner or later there’s a crisis (somehow defined) so maybe they would have hit another point at which she was forced to take stock. Who knows?
It’s certainly easier to work through practicalities if everyone’s wiling, than to convince people to make themselves willing.
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I can’t believe I missed this post. What a week it has been. Obviously I missed the sale so I will have to check out this book a little late. Chad got me four REAL books for my birthday, I mean like paperback books. They are the first books I have had since leaving the states that are made out of paper. I am a bit excited and can’t stop smelling them as I am reading them.
Man I really got off topic there for a bit. Anyways, I will be looking into this book soon. Thanks for sharing. 🙂
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Books aren’t off-topic! But wow – real paper. Yes. (Although I just hit publish on a post about decluttering books, so pros and cons.)
Out of interest, what titles did you get? (Or did I miss the answer to that one because I’m behind reading your blog!)
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You WOULd fling it out the window. lol (Though I know you said “nearly”.)
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I felt like doing it, that’s for sure. Then a few minutes after admitting it in front of my friend, I felt like sinking through the floor…
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‘S why I disagree w/ Paul that you’re an alpha. lol
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Ha! Yes. An alpha probably wouldn’t sink anywhere. (Or maybe that’s an unfair appraisal of the word “alpha”.)
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A good chick novel, huh? Sounds like a perfect read to bring some balance to all the latest research in my field that I’ve been going through 😉
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My favourite was Life From Scratch, the first one. It’s definitely less focussed on shopping and reading self-help books than any I’ve previously read. If you need something a little different to a peer-reviewed research article to turn your mind to!
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I really like your answer to question 2, that sometimes it’s okay to focus on one’s goals and needs. Women, I think, are so often told that neglecting relationships – for any reason – is bad. And like you point out, this happens to her every year.
I also love the phrase “dappy bint”…will definitely have to find a way to use that one some day :).
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Well I won’t say it’s ever ideal (ideally, we’d all be superwomen) but I think we can sometimes be forgiven. Reasonable expectations and all that.
Arianna did take a bit more on this year than in the past so I guess maybe it was a little more to expect from her friends, and the whole change of relationship/lifestyle as well, plus the wedding – in hindsight it might have been better if Ethan had moved in a couple of months later or if she’d chosen a different moment to approach her boss about a new role.
But, you know, everything in hindsight. We do our best, we make mistakes, we need a bit of leeway sometimes.
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The LIKE button has absconded! I like the like button! This thought stood out for me in your blog. ” truth is as slippery as the satin.” I suppose truth is truth, but you are right, what we convince our self is truth about our self is often a little murky and sometimes dishonest. lol.
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Everyone has said that. I’m thinking of bringing it back. The thing is, all the people who said it are the people who usually comment anyway – I already know what you guys think from the comments!
I might have to keep notifications off if I bring it back, is the only thing. Then again, I can always see it from my wordpress dashboard, just not as clearly…
The satin quote is actually from the author (it’s the dust jacket quote). I do think there are angles on the truth sometimes, especially when it comes to relationships and feelings, whether they’re right or wrong and what they mean. The main character in this book seemed a little confused about what she wanted, so it was a bit of a slippery ride at times – not so much dishonest as perhaps not deeply enough thought out!
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I’m actually a chick lit fan (when I actually have time to read something other than short, easy to digest blog posts). Thanks for the idea, it’s on my Kindle wish list.
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Aha! A chick lit fan AND a blogger. Well then you should definitely check these out next time you’re casting around for a book.
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Thanks for sharing this new author with us. I go in spurts of liking chick lit and then not. When I’m in the right reading mood, I’ll look for these.
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I know what you mean about being in the mood for certain types of books – that happens to me, too. I guess our minds need certain kinds of input and either that fluctuates, or books help to fill in the gaps life leaves.
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I have not read the book but I loved the movie, does that count? Haha…I don’t usually go for chick lit…but then, I go for romance novels so can’t really say much against it either…hahaha…:)
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No fourth book coming… It feels right to work on something else. New characters.
But you summed up perfectly the end of the book: “I’m not even sure either of them really figured this one out in the end. It seemed more as if they just made a promise to try and figure it out together. I guess that seemed like enough to me.”
But with that promise, I get the feeling that they make it for the long haul.
Thank you for reading this, especially if chicklit isn’t your cup of tea 🙂
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Mel, your chick lit seems a bit more real and thoughtful than things I’ve previously threatened to throw out the window, thus inadvertently offending good friends of mine.
I have to say my favourite of the series was Life From Scratch. Could be the blogging angle 🙂
But I’m glad to hear your impression of the ending. (I had an inkling you’d said you were saying goodbye to those characters, but I couldn’t remember properly). It’s nice to know, then, that you see Arianna working steadily towards a bit of a clearer head, with Ethan at her side.
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“your chick lit seems a bit more real and thoughtful than things I’ve previously threatened to throw out the window” I agree with you here. I know it’s why I like Mel’s writing. I know it’s been hard for me to read some of the criticisms of Arianna because I identify with her so much.
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Well, a little sympathy there goes a long way! I did feel for Arianna despite her faults. I could see where she was just overwhelmed and didn’t have the time to just sit and nut it out and make those adjustments – she was on railroads just trying to get through.
Not actually excellent timing for having your boyfriend move in, really. 🙂
And I think she did start to get there in the end as well and figure a few things out so I have much hope for her.
As I said to joy (who loves travel) I was a bit harsh on Bridget, too. I don’t know that it was her so much as the way her relationships with other characters were presented at the start of the book (and I didn’t give the book much of a chance – perhaps that was unfair of me).
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Oh, I missed the sale on this! Sounds like an interesting book. I’ll keep it on my to read list 🙂
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It’s nice to have a few light reads around sometimes.
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Aha. Now I know what a sappy hint is. 🙂
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Sappy hint. That’s going to be my code from now on. Autocorrect certainly doesn’t seem to know the other 🙂
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You are sooo funny!
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I don’t think my friend thought it was very amusing at the time 🙂
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I understand but your writing is just brilliant !
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Aw, thanks 🙂
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I’m going to see if I can use “dappy bint” at least three times this weekend.
This, yes this: “If there’s a fourth book coming, hopefully it will see Arianna breathing more slowly and gaining a bit more clarity on, you know, everything.” That kind of covers so many questions about Arianna and why she does what she does. And why so many of us relate to her.
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I think we’ve all had moments like this. (For further hasty explanations over the Bridget debacle, see other comments! Luckily she’s a forgiving friend.)
Obviously she took on a lot at once and didn’t have time to really process any of it. I felt as if, towards the end, she was starting to take the first steps.
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Oh and I should add, thanks for organising the tour, Lori!
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While I do enjoy a bit of dappy bintalism now and then (wait, what did I just claim?), I’ll happily take your recommendations on the other books first.
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I don’t see you as a Bridget Jones man. Although I’m not sure Rachael’s as much your style as Arianna… now there’s a personality quiz for you.
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I thought Bridget was a dappy bint too – going to adopt that one, sounds way more impressive than silly tart. I will read anything (except chick lit) but maybe need to revisit and remove my blinkers!
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Not all chick lit is created equal – this I have learned.
The other book I read in the series was Life From Scratch. First chick-lit book I appreciated and probably my favourite of the two.
But all in all I’m glad I’m not the only one who wasn’t in love with Bridget Jones. Although you know, I don’t think I minded her so much (she seemed harmless enough and very caring, if a bit dappy, and the truth is I’m not entirely undappy myself) but I think there was some suggestion I wasn’t supposed to sympathise with the people around her having to deal with her dappiness on a day to day basis. And I just thought well this is not going to work for me at all because you’ve got to admit.
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Dappy and dippy both apply to me in equal measure – probably more than I would like if truth were known. Thanks for the book suggestion, just had a look and like the sound of it – a blog where she vents about life and casseroles, that sounds like a plot I could enjoy! Chick lit (or these ones) are sounding more appealing already.
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Yes! See I should have mentioned that it was chick lit about a blogger.
Hm. Maybe that’s why Life From Scratch was my favourite of the two. Arianna Quinn briefly tries to start a blog but never gets past the first post. Clearly a different type of person 🙂
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Shall I presume dappy bint is Australian for silly tart?
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You know I was looking it up to see where it originated from and Monty Python is a reference for the word “bint”. Seems to be originally UK slang.
Dappy is less clear. All I can find on a brief sear h is “English (slang) – 1990’s – probably a variant of dippy” and also there seems to be some music (?) star calling himself Dappy now.
Either way, probably not a great thing to say in front of someone who feels deeply in step with Bridget Jones. Although I have to repeat – I did not know her feelings (or even that she’d read the book) before I threatened to throw it out the window.
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You are hilarious Bronwyn. Just the kind of thing I am known to do. Oops.
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We live and learn.
Or does your comment imply that we just live, and often get away with it?
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Well maybe a little but since my near arrest by a Roman guard for wandering through onstage I am constantly checking if I am allowed to take photos. Apparently this old do can learn new tricks. 🙂
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Ha! Yes. The confusing part is that rules change. And then if you know that rules change and you can’t always predict which ones, maybe a little testing from time to time is understandable…?
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I will take that as an explanation for my behaviour. 🙂
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🙂
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Okay, let me confess my ignorance. I like the phrase “dappy bint,” and think I get the picture. 🙂 But what is your definition of a dappy bint? (The WP software and I just had a fight because it kept trying to change dappy to sappy.) It still isn’t happy. –Curt
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Dappy – silly.
Bint – tart.
You can probably see why my friend was upset now. 🙂
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Um, yeah. 🙂
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In my defense, it never occurred to me that she felt this great and profound inner affinity for, well, dappy bints. (Also, I believe the first book was better. Though I was never game to check.)
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